Men and Women

Some of the bigger realizations are often the most simple and obvious.

My beliefs of our primal motivations as humans are pretty simple- men are supposed to range around, kill things, and attempt to spread their seed as far, wide, and as much they can.

Women, on the other hand, are supposed to nurture, support, care, and choose the proper mate- that is, the opposite of men's busy-bee reproductive behavior.

These are fairly common and accepted ideas concerning our psychology.

What just occured to me is the big deal.

Women's natural instincts are all promoted in our society as the proper way for a woman to be. Care. Nurture. Support. Don't run around humping everyone.

Men, on the other hand, get a mixed signal. Don't kill. Well, sometimes. Don't run around and have sex with everything that moves. Well, sometimes.

The base motivators of the male psyche are perverted by society's seemingly well intended rules, women's are promoted.

Is it any surprise that women are often accused of being emotional, irrational, difficult, sexually repressed? That men can't communicate, want sex too much, are violent, won't commit, etc?

If left to our primal urges alone, well, modern society would not function- but there's be a lot less confusion as to how people got along... and a lot more rape and murder- so clearly that's not a very nice way to be.

We're expected to cooperate and conform so that 'society' can have its way, as, obviously that's better. What we get to trade in is part of our own sanity in the process, though. Hmm. That's a bit misleading-- We get to trade in one part of our insanity for another which makes less sense to our mamillian brain.

Our intellectual capabilites create the need for fairness, order, and politeness, all concepts other animals rarely need to impose upon the world.

I think perhaps one of the largest challenges for a man in life is not finding his place but realizing his careful balance between animal and intellectual- what they are and how they work.

Of course, this now brings up the topic: men are the problem, but society is to blame. Carry on my wayward son. Hey Joe, where you goin' with that gun in your hand? I shot the sherrif. I fought the law and the law won. If you're gonna die, die with your boots on.

There are so many things to be amazed at. Science, nature, astrology, anthropology, linguistics, physics, nerology- it's hard, sometimes, not to imagine that they're not just different gears in the same big machine that we can't quite comprehend.